Asked by Anonymous
oh shit, I didn’t realize you were black.
ATTENTION EVERYONE: BREAKING NEws!!! one black girl said it’s fine to culturally appropriate!!!!!!!!
the fight is over! go home all our problems are solved!!! racism is no more! she’s basically MLK reincarnated!!!!!
blessed be this glorious day where you abolished racism bc you’re black and fight against the oppressions of the poor whites! u saint.
There are a lot of pitfalls to female adolescence, like depending on your boyfriend for validation or being too scared to take chances you should, but with the right guide (and hopefully a learner’s permit), you can do your best to steer around them. And that’s where actress and YouTuber Anna Akana comes in. Get all of Akana’s advice to teens from hair tips to how to love yourself here.
What in the hell
Every day millions of Black people try their best to be accepted in the system of white supremacy, & forget one of its basic rule… You must be white! Some will curse their mama just to drink tea with white folks.
Black Self Hatred is a serious issue among our people.
but, bbygrl, why a tura satana appreciation day?
[tw : rape]
- she’s a total babe. duh.
- she’s japanese, filipino, cheyenne + irish.
- she was simultaneously a straight-a student in school while being viciously bullied for her heritage + size and punished by her parents for getting into fights. i mean, even without the straight a’s, she was strong and endured feeling isolated at home and at school.
- she’s a fellow rape survivor — “Walking home from school at the age of nine she was gang raped by five men. According to Satana, her attackers were never prosecuted and it was rumored that the judge had been paid off. She tells how this prompted her to learn the martial arts of aikido and karate and, over the next 15 years, track down each rapist and exact revenge. ’I made a vow to myself that I would someday, somehow get even with all of them’, she said years later. ‘They never knew who I was until I told them.’”
- she began living on her own at the age of 13, after her parents married her to a 17-year old and she wasn’t having that bullshit. i can’t even imagine what that was like.
- she was an extremely successful burlesque dancer, and even when she got pregnant at 19 she danced through the first eight months of her pregnancy! and yeah, she still made BANK.
- faster pussycat! kill! kill! — a cult classic john waters apparently calls the greatest movie ever made. i still haven’t seen it, but from what i’ve read it portrays the three female leads (tura satana is the LEAD lead) in positions or power that normally men are portrayed in, and that’s allll the way back in the 60’s. she did all her own stunts and fight scenes. the majority of satana’s styling and one-liners, and some additional key concepts of the film, were satana’s own doing.
- after being shot by a former lover and staying in a hospital, she decided to study nursing and she did just that. she even briefly worked as the dispatcher for the lapd.
tura satana passed away on 2/4/2011, but she’s still amazing and one of my inspirations as a woc, especially as a mixed-race asian rape survivor struggling to embrace my sexuality. <3 and that’s why i’m giving her her own day! just who she was makes me feel good about me.
all facts taken from tura satana’s wikipedia page
Most of my future children tag is cute brown children being fabulous and clearly belonging to me in spirit, but I’m making an exception for this tweet because if I don’t raise my kids to give that exact same response, then I have failed as a parent.
Who is this woman and can I send her a thank-you gift basket and a Black Parenting Award? This is why it is imperative that we teach our children real history outside of textbooks constructed by, written for, and approved by white men whose re-telling of history conveniently glosses over atrocities and minimizes suffering.
"bold new idea"
I want to go to that school and set fire to every history book in the building.
Asked by Anonymous
I saw this quote on Tumblr and I think it about sums up how I feel when people say “Asians / Asian men are unattractive”
That is: You thinking i’m not attractive, is not going to stop me from being attractive.
So this ask actually hits real close to home because I’ve dealt with this shit for pretty much my entire life.
White beauty standards are fucking gross.
But I think what’s worse is as POC, we not only have to measure up to white beauty standards but we have the added bonus of racial caricatures. That shit fucked me up real bad.
This meant (to name a few):
- Looking at every photo and thinking my eyes were too small and hating them cause some fuckers decided to tell me to open my eyes as wide as possible and then laughed and said, “Wow that’s the biggest they’ll go?” (I know realize that my eyes are actually pretty big so idk what them fuckers were talking about. And like small eyes aren’t ugly???? They cute.)
- Growing up thinking, “Fuck. My monolids.” As well as STRUGGLING REAL HARD to apply eye make up cause like ???? there are no good tutorials for that shit?
- Thinking I couldn’t dye my hair certain colors cause it would look tacky.
- Thinking I was too short.
- Thinking my deep brown eyes were boring and ugly.
- Thinking I wasn’t “pretty enough” for an Asian (and later on with the fucking rise of kpop, Korean) girl.
- Thinking being called “pretty for an Asian chick” was a compliment.
- Wishing I was white.
Like w o w. I was on some other level self-hate. But I mean…it happens. Here are some things that may help:
- Accept every compliment you receive. Do not try to deny it, even if if you don’t believe it. Then, repeat the words back to yourself. Let them sink in. Soak in the positivity.
- Every time you feel ugly, dissect that shit. Ask yourself why you feel ugly and where that’s coming from. 100% of the time, it’s nonsense. But unless you actually spell it out for yourself, those thoughts will take over. Cut them up and leave them out to dry before they drain you. Do not give them power.
- For each negative thought you have about your appearance, think of at least two to counter it. If you can’t think of any, ask your friends.
- Take selfies. LOTS and LOTS of selfies. Do not delete them.
- Make yourself look at your face and body. Check yourself out. Do a little dance in the mirror. Make funny faces. Get used to seeing your reflection. Trust me, it helps.
- Compliment yourself.
- If you feel that you can’t call yourself beautiful yet, repeat this mantra: “I am not ugly.” One day, you will truly believe it. It took me 20 years but it happened. I still have down days and I don’t quite think I’m pretty but I don’t think I’m ugly. And that, in and of itself, is huge.
- Give yourself a break. Purging beauty standard BS out of your mind takes time and you’re not gonna think you’re not ugly overnight. I mean it’d be fucking great if that were possible but…realistically, that shit is not gonna happen. So don’t beat yourself up for not “progressing fast enough”. It’s okay. You’ll get there.
- Recognize that white beauty standards are another form of oppression. Recognize that you will never be white. I know that this seems like a “duh.” kind of thing but repeat that several times and let it really sink in.
- Recognize that racial stereotypes/caricatures do not define you.
- Recognize that you’re not here for anyone. And by that, I mean: It’s not your job to be “pretty” or “beautiful” for anyone but yourself. Once you kinda accept this, you start to care less.
I feel like I rambled but I really hope this somewhat helps, anon. I know it’s not easy and while I’m a lot better than I was, I still have a lot of off days/moments. I wish you the best of luck and I hope one day you will believe me when I say, “You are beautiful.”